I Need Professional Help
For the last few weeks I’ve been in a weird mental state. See, this whole dating thing is odd for me. Casually getting involved with someone I can’t possibly see a future with? No problem. Spend time with my emotionally unavailable male friends? Easy as pie. Dating a guy who treats me really well who is actually intelligent and delightful and who (get this) I could see lasting longer than a month? That’s a new one.
So here’s the tricky part. No one seems to have too much faith in my ability to handle this without it turning into a huge steaming pile of a mess. To be fair, my friends have a legitimate reason for thinking that. I tend to turn relationships into huge, stinking mess piles. It’s a skill. It’s sort of what I do. That said, it’s been frustrating hearing over and over how doomed this poor guy really is.
I’m trying, though. I like him. I think we are doing pretty well, actually. I was thinking about writing a long, interesting, brilliantly worded commentary. I started thinking about Scrubs, as I often do, I realized that there were several quotes and moments that really seemed to fit this mental state I’m in. So here are my emotional thoughts, delivered by JD and Dr. Cox.
I feel ya, JD. To the nay-sayers, I want this to work out. Stop trying to freak me out already!
I just want to see if this could be the thing that brings someone into my life. Because I’ve been lonely for a while now.
While I’m not saying that this is the end-all-be-all relationship of all time, I am saying that I think Dr. Cox is brilliant. And I’m confessing that, despite my external cynicism and absolute failure as a girl (I seldom “aw,” I rarely cry, and I prefer local produce to expensive flowers), secretly I’m a big ole softy who really, really believes that sometimes things can work out.
So that’s it for the moment.
Honey, I don’t know which friends you’ve been talking to, but they’re full of crap and I feel like kicking them (which probably means it’s a good thing I’m nowhere near them). I have full confidence in you and your abilities, and I think that you are completely capabel of making this thing work. I believe in you.
October 1st, 2009 at 7:09 pmI love this column almost as much as I love you. No one says it like Scrubs…I myself just watched the finale (SNIFF) and had a lovely psychologically lifted moment.
You’re going to be just fine. I think that’s how Dr. Cox would say it–if no one was listening, of course.
October 3rd, 2009 at 7:22 pmYou are amazing, let your self love and be loved. It hurts, it feels good it tickles, it itches, its irritating, its soothing, its make believe, its real but most importantly…………its yours
October 8th, 2009 at 6:05 pmLove Momma